Ever had one of those days where you feel like you’re doing everything wrong and you suck at life?
When it comes to writing, these moods get me nowhere. Rather than writing, I’ll sit at my computer checking my email, interacting on social media, and poking around my blogs. And thinking about how much I suck, because really Amanda, how difficult is it to write a few hundred words and get shit done?
Days like these aren’t productive. No matter how many times I force myself off social media, five minutes later I’m checking to see if anyone has responded to me. (Please? ANYTHING?)
Having one of these days recently made me realize something important: I have to learn when to take a break. Do something unrelated to my writing.
When you feel like you’re doing everything wrong and everyone is doing it right and why can’t I just be awesome like them?, that mood goes beyond the lack of motivation. It’s a physical inability to perform the activity.
Sometimes you have to walk away. Give up for a day or an evening or a few hours. Yes. GIVE. UP. Stop thinking about it. Spend an evening reading or pour yourself an alcoholic beverage. (Grape vodka, anyone?)
Go for a walk. Go for a run. Go for a fifteen mile bike ride.
Anything to disconnect yourself from feeling like you can’t do anything right.
Because that feeling?
Sometimes you have to do nothing to do something. Sometimes you need that mental vacation to reorient yourself and kick that lying bastard of a feeling out the door.
And yeah, you’ll still have your deadline to meet. But if you’re not getting your work done anyway, why are you wasting your time being frustrated? Frustration only breeds more frustration.
Take back your time. Take back your happiness. Take a break.
And then, when you tackle your work the next day, tackle it with gusto. Because you can do it right. And you can be as awesome as everyone else “doing it right.”
How do you fight the feeling of not being able to do it right?